One writer wrote and I agreed to her,”when you’ve children (many), you will just cut out the crap.”
That is one a good thing i realize recently. Time is just so precious, that you won’t have time for fantasy and ideals. You would just grab the essentials, and practical. As long as things work, life goes on.
The second thing is that you get better at anticipating problems. Somehow your antenna is quick to detect any potential problems, and found the sure proof solution.
But to everything excess, there are always not so good thing.
So to counter those things, I learn to reflect also. To keep the ideal, and somehow when possible, “whatever is good, lovely, perfect, to think of such things…” (Paul’s letters)